This message is for all the people I care about, you know who you are. I know it's hard to reach out. I know it seems easier to bottle things in because of how you were raised or the trauma you've been through. I will never judge someone who is reaching out asking for help because I know how hard and scary that is. Believe me I hadn't shared all the trauma I've been through with everyone because I didn't want people to feel sorry for me. I wanted them to see me as strong but strength is allowing others to help you when you need it. And sometimes to know when you're being treated poorly because you don't realize that a lot of the people in your life haven't been treating you how you deserve. It's the most difficult lesson I've ever had to learn and it's been the most painful. Your friends may not be able to directly help you but they may be the one to make a call you can't make or send an email to a therapist you're terrified to admit you need or tell you where you need to go if you're confused. Maybe you just need them to listen and not say a word. (If that's the case tell them so they know) Your true loved ones will do that because ultimately your happiness is what they want for you. It goes the other way too if you don't feel like you can share your good news with someone because they'll be jealous, it says a lot about that person. Take note. I want everyone around me safe, happy and healthy because that's also what I want for myself. I'm here if you need me. I might not always do the best job but I can promise I'm gonna try my best or I'll let you know if I'm having a tough time too and unable to show up for you instead of pretending I can when I can't. Quarantine has taught me a lot about making sure my cup is full first.
There is enough trauma in the world, we don't need it. Learning to be kind, learn people's boundaries, your own boundaries, growing, changing, creating positivity in the world, learning to communicate all the stuff that's hard, being happy for others when they succeed, it will free you.
All the hugs and love you can handle. 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗